Dirty Laundry

I was just poking around my favorite social media site. You all know the one I'm talking about. A lot of drama there today. Who needs television when you have this site? Pass the popcorn please. I guess I don't get it. If I had an argument with my wife, I wouldn't post it on facebook and then get into a discussion about what a terrible person she was with people who didn't even know my wife. That stuff would be between my wife and I. If I thought someone was being an asshole, I wouldn't post that on facebook  because that's redundant. Everybody is an asshole sometimes. Even I, too, am less than perfect. And why make my amends list longer?  It's enough work at the length it already is without having to apologize to the asshole for telling everyone what an asshole he was and then apologizing to everyone I told because I dragged them into a conversation that was really none of their business to begin with. That's way too much apologizing for me.

In the tenth step of my program it talks to me about the practice of self-restraint. It says, "in order to practice self-restraint, I need an honest analysis of what's involved, a willingness to accept the blame if it's my fault and an equal willingness to forgive if it was their fault." Analyzing a situation honestly allows me to see if I was at fault. Not everything that happens is my fault, but sometimes it is. Sometimes I make mistakes. And if it was my fault, if he was an asshole because I was an asshole first, then I need to own that. If, on the other hand, it wasn't my fault and it was all him, then I need to forgive him for being an asshole. Then, I can get on with the rest of my day and you won't need to hear about it on facebook.

Know what I mean. Jellybean.